A thought came to me.
The same thought had come to me several times lately. I have no power to make another happy.
I am not happy all the time. I’m happy more now than I used to be, and that’s because of steps I’ve taken — fitfully and occasionally — to make it so. Outside of myself I have only the power to love another. Whether this is enough to make the other person happy or if they need to take additional steps is up to them. I recommend the latter.
Then it occurred to me tonight why I named this site, “Loving Jacqui” and not “Making Jacqui Happy”.
‘Cause I do love her even on those days I don’t “make” her happy. I love her even on those days “I make” her feel bad.
And I’ll keep my friends when that happens. You can too. And you can make more, just like I will.
I believe in supporting each other in pursuing and achieving great (good) things… not restraining one another from enjoying all life has to offer.
I just can’t remember where.
Amy Minsky and Carolynne Burkholder from Canwest News Service write:
Facebook shown to increase jealousy in relationships
Be careful when you surf Facebook, or your relationship status may go from “married” to “it’s complicated,” researchers warn.
Amy Muise, lead author of the study, said the jealousy is caused by overexposing partners to triggers.
The more time you spend on the social networking site, the more likely you are to feel jealous, according to a study from the University of Guelph.
Article continues: read it here.
I certainly think Facebook (and blogging and chatting) can lead to less time spent together by the couple. This can even be a good thing, at times, because interactions with others make people more interesting and absence makes the heart grow fonder. To a point.
But it DOES seem rather silly to be communicating with Jacqui by Facebook when we’re living in the same house. And we were doing that. So I guess I sidestepped the problem because I stopped and now I have no clue who says what to Jacqui on Facebook.
Although I’m interested!
The article goes on to say:
Georgina Hobbs-Meyer, 24, is one of the victims of divorce sparked by Facebook jealousy.
According to an article in The Guardian, Hobbs-Meyer stumbled across her husband’s Facebook correspondences with another woman.
“And once I was in, I was hooked. Their lusty e-mails touched on bad beat poetry, but were infused with textspeak, their coy cyberflirts rife with emoticons,” Hobbs told the British newspaper.
Well at least the article admits the divorce was sparked by her jealousy.
“beat poetry” … hmmm. And oh no! Emoticons! Argh!
Call in the divorce lawyers. That’s a rational response.
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* There’s a bad one.
Here’s an excellent article on the environment and economic (and therefore health and longevity) progress from Bret Stephens at the Wall Street Journal.
Some of my favourite points:
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Facts tell a different story. When Deng Xiaoping began introducing elements of a market economy in 1980, Chinese life expectancy at birth was 65.3 years. Today it is about 73 years. The numbers are probably a bit inflated, as most numbers are in the People’s Republic, but the trend line is undeniable. In India, life expectancy rose from 52.5 years in 1980 to about 67 years today. If this is the consequence of following the “American economic model” then poor countries need more of it.
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The rest is brilliant too.
Admission. Okay so my title was a bit tongue-in-cheek. I didn’t mean to imply everyone in Western nations are stupid. Capitalists come out well… and humanely.
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